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The Importance of Being (Aware)

I know that I drive those around me crazy with my talk of giftedness in adults.  “Gifted kids grow up”.  “The things that are different about us are with us – life-long!”.    “Call it what you want, there are qualities and characteristics that distinguish us as being different – not better than, not worse than – but very very different!”.

Uh Oh I sense the eye rolling already.  Finger on the key – she’s at it again blah blah , so what?

WAIT!  Here is my ‘so what’:

I’ve been working with people for 40 years.   And throughout that time, my deep down gut intention has been to make a difference in the world, one human life at a time.  To ease suffering, and to make this world a better place.  I figure that since we’re overpopulating,  we may as well seek peace and wisdom while we’re at it.  Maybe together we’ll make better decisions about our planet.

So when curious, deep-thinking, intelligent, creative and values-driven people come to my door, I’m happy.  Right?

WRONG!  I am NOT HAPPY!    WHY NOT, you (oughta) ask?

Because these same amazing people come to my therapy practise to be ‘fixed’.  To remove the pathology bestowed upon them by the unaware. Different becomes bad becomes ‘treatable’.

I don’t like it, and I’m doing what I can to change it.

Here are the labels:  OCD, anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder, major personality disorder, major depression, schizophrenia, ASD, ADHD, ADD, and just plain ‘wrong’.  Yes, I know that all aforementioned can be ‘real conditions’ with pharmacological and other treatment.  I’m well trained.  I won’t be drawn into that red herring anymore.

Back to the package of characteristics that distinguish us (yes, I am) as gifted adults.  It’s really simple – let’s become aware … and celebrate.

Whatever we each may believe about why we are here, or what the world needs, or where ‘meaning’ sits in our current narrative about life . . . surely we know that devaluing and diminishing those who HAVE to expand beyond boxes and dogma is JUST NOT OK.


Without awareness, the pathologizing of gifted adults will continue. Subtly within families and organizations, grossly within medical systems, and personally in the internalizing of our ‘wrongness’.  The world is NOT a better place for it.

It’s Gifted Awareness Week here in New Zealand.  I celebrate the Tall Poppies who have managed to stay tall.  I celebrate those of us who have bent and maybe on occasion broken (yes, I have.  Many times).  And I completely, intensely, loudly, passionately and with power, enthusiasm and fear (yes) that has NO BOUNDS – celebrate those who celebrate with me!

p.s. if you didn’t click on New Zealand above, you’re missing an icon! Go on.  Make your day.


  1. Maggie hi,
    Let me celebrate with you on this one!!
    I am down today – trying to get up but some days – YES
    but to no avail –
    they can not,
    they will not,
    And even if they did – SO WHAT?
    Tomorrow will come and you will not have changed!
    but your spirit’s will have and that smile will be back
    so today you accept you are falling into the pit of the earth
    and know that tomorrow you will soar with the eagles…
    The worst is your children- you think you know that you will
    never be able to protect them
    you know they will suffer fools (hahahahah)
    and all you can do is try and prepare them for it – hahahah
    Thanks for this article Maggie
    look me up sometime
    we can chat 🙂
    mentor, coach, laugh and move ahead of the crowd

  2. Elaine Elaine

    Well said, Maggie!!!

  3. Elizabeth Murray Elizabeth Murray

    Thank you Maggie – this is just what I needed today!

  4. Louise Louise

    All humans are gifted in some form, it is gift within ourselves to recognise it in others.😌

  5. Philippa Philippa

    Thank you again Maggie….. I’m very happy to have found your website, you are reaching many people who really do need your assistance, I am very grateful to you.

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